I have been reading a book my wife recommended to me; “Strong Fathers, Strong daughters” by Mek Meeker. And I can’t seem to get over these pages when I came across them. The author reviewed a few of the guidelines written in the manual developed by the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States (SIECUS). This organization is a non-profit group that “assist children in understanding a positive view of sexuality, provide them with information and skills about taking care of their sexual health, and help them acquire skills to make decisions now and in the future”.
Why am I sharing these? Knowing what your children are exposed to will help you approach them intentionally. Let’s see some of those guidelines
For Children ages 5 to 8:
- Touching and rubbing one’s own genitals to feel good is called masturbation
- Some men and women are homosexual, which means that they will be attracted to and fall in love with someone of the same sex. (This is in the manual for the older children)
For children ages 9 to 12 (third through sixth grade):
- Masturbation is often the first way a person experiences sexual pleasure.
- Being sexual with another person usually involves more than sexual intercourse.
- Abortion is legal in the United States up to a certain point in pregnancy.
- Homosexuals relationships can be as fulfilling as heterosexual relationships.
For children ages 12 to 15 (seventh through tenth grade)
- Masturbation, either alone or with a partner, is one way people can enjoy and express their sexuality without risking pregnancy or STDs/HIV
- Being sexual with another person usually involves different sexual behaviors.
- Having a legal abortion rarely interferes with a woman’s ability to become pregnant or give birth in the future.
- People of all genders and sexual orientation can experience sexual dysfunction.
- Some sexual behaviors shared by partners include kissing, touching, caressing, massaging, and oral, vagina, or anal intercourse.
- Nonprescription methods of contraception include male and female condoms, foam, gels, and suppositories.
- Young people can buy nonprescription contraceptives in a pharmacy, grocery store, market, or convenience store.
- In most states, young people can get prescriptions for contraception without their parents’ permission.
- Both men and women can give and receive sexual pleasure.
For Children ages 15 to 18 (tenth through twelfth grade):
- Some sexual behaviors shared by partners include kissing, touching, talking, caressing, massaging, sharing erotic literature or art, bathing or showering together, and oral, vaginal, or anal intercourse.
- Some people use erotic photographs, movies, or literature to enhance sexual fantasies involve mysterious or forbidden things
- People can find creative and sensual ways to integrate contraception into their sexual relationship.
Now definitely, I personally do not feel very comfortable with the amount and type of information been given to them at this age. But what do we do as Christian parents or leaders?
- Approach them intentionally knowing what they might have been exposed to. Now you are not surprised as to what they could know. What will do about it?
- Answer their questions about these subjects. They are not asking because they don’t know, they only just want to get your perspective. Don’t dismiss their questions.
- Anchor them in the scriptures. Do not just give your perspective. Tell them what the bible says about it. So you have to do your research and study. Most children raised in the a godly home believe what the bible says. And in little recent survey, all of them believe that the bible is the final authority.
- Always pray for them. Prayer should never be a last resort. Prayer is Primary prevention.
Let me know your thoughts, leave a comment and share. God bless. Thanks.
Written by Victor Chukwu